First off: congrats on having your very own style! That ain’t easy and I admire everyone who’s pulling it off.
Now, I ususally try to remain impartial, but I hate bullying with the burning passion of a dried out dragon, so I this might get a bit heated.
Bullies are stinking cowards and since you already assume possible bullying in the future, I’m going out on a limb here and will say you’ve already made their atrocious acquaintance. Ideally, I’d say, do whatever the hell pleases you: dance through hallways, answer every question, dress and style yourself however you like, because this is your school life, where you are learning and growing up and where you should feel safe.
They have no right to make you feel afraid, they have no right to take away your fun and concentration and they have no right to make you feel any less important and worth treating right.
But well. Real life, huh? I don’t know where you come from, but in many countries, schools still don’t quite know how to deal with the little buggers and they’re often given free reign. If this is where you are -
So, here’s what I learned:
1) Find Your People
This might not be easy, especially if you’re shy, but there is always someone who will connect with you, will share your hobbies or will laugh at your jokes. Regardless of whether there are bullies or not, having your own little group will back you up and make your whole school experience a lot more worthwhile.
This is very important in the beginning, because it just gets harder as time goes on. Everybody is nervous and confused at the beginning of a new year, so try to reach out to people who seem like they could float your boat: maybe you hear a reference they make, maybe they wear a cool dress, maybe there’s just chemistry. Find your troops.
Also try to sort the teachers into groups: who is most likely to help you in an emergency, who seems like they would listen to you and take action, and so on.
2) Don’t seem scared
This seems like cruelty, but I mean it. Bullies are like wild animals or horses - they notice when you’re scared and they will make use of it.
Always remember why you are there: you are here to learn, to make friends, to grow into an adult, to experience things, to express yourself. This is ultimately for you and even if you don’t feel like it and you’re scared, pretend like you’re already living your perfect school life. Make it seem like their silly words would just be nuisances as they should be, make it seem like you wouldn’t falter under their presure, make it seem like you would just shrug them off, wave them off and leave them standing in the rain.
This is easier if you can depend on your wittiness. I was never physically strong, but I have a very sharp tongue and just saying something cool and watching them drop like a hot potato is usually enough.
(Sadly, not for all of them. Some are very witty themselves, some will gang up, some will even resort to violence. If this happens and somebody attacks you for real, get out of there. You will not and should not put up with that)
3) You ALWAYS have options
If, which is unlikely, somebody really just abhors you and wants to cause you pain, you can always get away. You will always have your support network by your side to help you every step of the way: tumblr, your guardians, the school board, even the government. The important thing to remember is that you’re in the right. No matter what they say, they’re committing a crime and you will always have the moral highground.
But most importantly: None of the above will likely happen. This is your emergency plan and you’re now ready to take them on, weapons loaded and sunglasses polished, should they come, but in all likelihood, people will admire your coolness.
Most people are actually pretty okay and I’d be surprised if there’s not one of them who wants to become your friend (maybe precisely because of your sweet hairdo). Remember: if anything does happen, we’re here and if nothing does, we’re here all the same.
You’ll be okay. Just be yourself, be ready to grow and rock your awesome hair!
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Well, hello, fellow book friend! Great choice of classes, but I can imagine that it’s a bit hard to keep up.
I think the important thing here is to establish barriers, so that your texts don’t get mixed up with each other. Personally, I love reading multiple books at the same time (well, roughly at the same time) to see how and where they overlap and where they diverge - it creates a sort of meta-text in your mind that connects them at a higher level.
However, it can annoy your professor if you suddenly write about the “wrong” text, so yeah, barriers.
1. Real World Barriers
Temporal… you can reserve certain time slots for certain courses.
If you only ever read, say, Ancient Norse Myths on Thursdays and Comparative Young Adult Literature on Wednesdays and Garfield as a Modern Anti-Hero on Mondays, it’s a lot easier to seperate these texts in your mind and you can really dive into them. If you need to read them more often than once a week, try reading one course in the afternoon, the other in the evening and … you get the idea.
Local … if you really want your brain to realize that these texts are to be treated seperately, change your location for each course. Read the one course at home, the other in the library, the third in the park or wherever you like to stick your nose in a book or some sheets of paper.
It’s even better if the location is somehow related to the course. Like, The Old Man and the Sea at the beach? Oh, yeah.
2. Mind Barriers
If you have a vivid imagination, which, as a reader, you most likely do, it also helps to have some mind barriers set up.
I’m not talking about something as advanced as a mind palace, but, say, a mind hallway.
Behind every door there is a course which leads to another hallway filled with doors, each of which represents a text. If you’re people-centred, you can enhance this by having some of your favourite characters or even friends or Pokémon hanging around.
For example, you sit down to study Ancient Norse Myths, walk to the first door to the right, through the one that’s decorated with mystical creatures and a huge tree and you step into the doorway, where you take another door, decorated with thunder and lightning, which leads to your Thor character study, where incidentally Thor is lounging around with a Pikachu.
You know? Stuff like that.
Maybe it’s a mixture of all three for you, or maybe just one or two will do the trick.
If it’s about the reading itself, which can be very tiring, no matter how interesting the text, I’d advise you to
a) think of the actual fictional reading as free time (so don’t think “Ugh, I gotta read this and see all the stuff the professor wants me to see”, but think “Yay! A story!”), because this way it will be a lot more enjoyable AND you will notice more
b) treat the non-fictional texts as fictional texts and envision it to make it more exciting (an author’s life = story, a period’s writing = story, an in-depth analysis of symbolical uses in a text = monologue of an interesting character, …)
c) read the hard texts before bed if you’re not too drowsy, because that way you will remember them better AND you may make connections in your dreams that will surprise you
d) definitely read when you feel like it – there are days when you feel like you could swallow a bookcase and you should make really good use of them
e) get yourself in the mood if you do not feel like it – just think about the characters for a while or the message and the more you think about it, the more you will want to know: what’s going to happen next? How can you interpret this or that sequence? Does the story have any connection with the author’s life? Does the writing of the time period have any connection to the cultural/economic/scientific/… circumstances of the time? Does…
…aaaand you’re back on track.
f) if you absolutely do not feel like it, do not force yourself. Don’t ever get yourself to hate books or writing; sometimes you just need a break from the written word and that’s perfectly okay.
Take your time.
g) Just for fun: It’s always amusing when you try to write parts of your notes on a certain author or a time period in that very style. It helps you to remember the idiosyncrasies of the style and you may get a good laugh out of it.
Enjoy your reading!
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